After watching The Real World: Cancun with my husband I decided to find out is there is a such thing as friendly flirting. What brought this about was Jonna who was flirting with a variety of men even though shes in a monogamous relationship. She would be cuddling up with men including her male cast mate CJ; she would also go out to dinners with men. Jonna referred to this as friendly flirting. is there such a thing?
My personal feelings are NO there is no such thing. Flirting is a sign of liking someone. If the flirting is just a friendly thing whats the point of flirting in the first place. Meaning if this other person is just a friend why flirt aren't they going to like you regardless if u flirt? One would think that you flirt to catch that persons eye; its a way of saying I'm single.
I posted the question of Facebook and wow was I baffled. 3 men and 1 woman said that yes its a such thing along with the fact that its ok. All 4 people said that its ok as long as it don't cross the line followed by if you tell your mate then its ok but if not its wrong. Another 1 of the 3 men said that friendly flirting falls in the category of complementing.....*1 eyebrow raised* yeah right. The 3r man said its ok as long as both parties respect that the other has a mate and both are respectful to that ( again*both eyebrows raised yeah right). 2 women and 1 man said something totally different. The Man said that you only flirt with people that you like; and the flirting is a sign of lusting therefore its like cheating. Why flirt with someone you don't like? 1 of the women said why flirt considering your in a relationship, let alone you never know how the other person you flirting with will receive it let alone how your mate will feel about it.
In the end I agree with that if everything is peachy-keen at time then why play with fire? We females all know that if we caught our mate flirting with another woman thing would get real ugly real fast....So I pose this question to you is there a such thing a friendly flirting and if so what is it?
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