Questions

I've noticed a lot of people talking about being grown. My question to the world is what defines this? I can certainly tell you what it's not; its not being 22 yrs old living at home with you boyfriend and your parents with no job. its not being 30 something yrs old trying to relive the glory days of your high school yrs. its not living off your younger girlfriend trying to regain a title that you had back when you was a teenager. Another thing that I've seen is these same people are the main ones constantly saying"I'm a grown ass man/woman." one would think that if that's the case why do you feel the need to keep saying it over and over? I was once told that real grown men/women don't need to acknowledge their growness your actions will show it. The funniest part of it all is that these same people get extremely angry when you comment on their life saying stay out of my business well dorks if you wouldn't advertise it then we wouldn't know whats going on to make a comment......rotflmaowtfbbq.

I understand that it's a recession going on but what I don't get is why do most use that as a excuse not to do anything to improve their self or their situation. It seems like pure laziness to me. You have those who have the opportunity to make their lives better yet they ignore it. Then it's those that have all the resources to do everything but wont do nothing. Prime example girl A(degree) has a side hustle making between $150.00 -$200.00 each week per client; but she could be making $700.00 per paycheck. Girl A half asses the side hustle and wont make the real money to get out her rut. Now girl B had the opportunity to make $2,500 per month but no way to get to the job. Instead of asking around she ignores this chance. Again lazy I really don't get it- if you don't have money or little to none then you should be busting or jumping on any opportunity that comes knocking. It's simple don't complain if your not willing to do whats need to change your situation.

Get Real

Here's a shocker -- Macaulay Culkin's press agent claims the actor is not the biological father of Michael Jackson's son Blanket.

The ridiculous story, which first appeared in The Sun this morning -- and everywhere else 5 minutes later -- explained how Culkin donated the sperm to create Blanket.

So we contacted Culkin's rep Michelle Bega to ask -- because why not -- and we got the following statement:

"The inquiries are too preposterous for us to even acknowledge."

Who in the world would believe that? No disrespect to Macauly but come on now

Accidental Overdose

Law enforcement sources directly connected with the death of DJ AM tell us that his death was the result of an accidental overdose and not a suicide -- and there is a tragic, ironic twist of fate.

Our sources say DJ AM, a recovering addict, developed a dependency to Xanax and other benzodiazepines (a group of drugs used to treat anxiety) as a direct result of the plane crash a year ago. We're told AM (aka Adam Goldstein) developed a tremendous anxiety over flying -- something he had to do frequently for his job. We're told doctors began prescribing Xanax and other anti-anxiety medications to relieve his fear, but the benzos triggered a relapse into addiction. We're told benzos are particularly dicey for recovering addicts.

Our sources say DJ AM's relapse was "recent" -- he was not abusing for a prolonged period of time before his death.

We're also told the OD had "absolutely nothing to do with his recent breakup."

Our sources say the evidence strongly indicates cause of death will be a combination of crack cocaine and benzos.

Read more: http://www.tmz.com/#ixzz0PlhprF8E

When is it enough

We've all heard of Nadya Suleman, Octomom. She gave birth to 8 kids at one time!!!!! Right 8 kids wow her body should be wore out by now, if not before. It's one thing to have 6 kids with no help from the father but to go and have another 8 by the same man is kind of insane if you ask me..She didn't have any kind of relationship with the father of the first 6.

I reserved my opinions about her until after I seen her special. Damn that woman is dumber than a box of rocks.Seriously 8 kids on top of the 6 you already have. As I continued to watch I began to realize that's she's just trying to make herself look god, but I feel like it backfired in her face.

There's nothing wrong with the way that she got pregnant. Its something wrong with the situation she was in when she did it. Nadya made it clear that the father wasn't there for any of the first 6 kids. Granted they might have had an agreement that he didn't have to be there ; but she herself admitted that she secretly wanted him to be..CRAZY. News flash if he wasn't there for any of the first 6 why in the world would he be there for the next 8?

I keep asking myself what makes her think that she's going to be ab;e to care for 14 kids? When in 2007 while she was 5mths pregnant her 5 yr old went missing. The child was later found with the nanny. That lets me know that she has too many kids already. Your first thought wasn't maybe he's with the nanny? Her 2 yr old is extra violent he kicked one of the Octuplets in the head, slapped the mess out of the mother. During the interview she said something about not being the best mother and the oldest child chimed in telling her that she isn't the best mother in the world. What's most shocking was that she admitted that she never thought about the future; how is it that you have 6 kids(at that time) and not thought about the future.

Blurred Lines or Blurred Reality

After watching The Real World: Cancun with my husband I decided to find out is there is a such thing as friendly flirting. What brought this about was Jonna who was flirting with a variety of men even though shes in a monogamous relationship. She would be cuddling up with men including her male cast mate CJ; she would also go out to dinners with men. Jonna referred to this as friendly flirting. is there such a thing?

My personal feelings are NO there is no such thing. Flirting is a sign of liking someone. If the flirting is just a friendly thing whats the point of flirting in the first place. Meaning if this other person is just a friend why flirt aren't they going to like you regardless if u flirt? One would think that you flirt to catch that persons eye; its a way of saying I'm single.

I posted the question of Facebook and wow was I baffled. 3 men and 1 woman said that yes its a such thing along with the fact that its ok. All 4 people said that its ok as long as it don't cross the line followed by if you tell your mate then its ok but if not its wrong. Another 1 of the 3 men said that friendly flirting falls in the category of complementing.....*1 eyebrow raised* yeah right. The 3r man said its ok as long as both parties respect that the other has a mate and both are respectful to that ( again*both eyebrows raised yeah right). 2 women and 1 man said something totally different. The Man said that you only flirt with people that you like; and the flirting is a sign of lusting therefore its like cheating. Why flirt with someone you don't like? 1 of the women said why flirt considering your in a relationship, let alone you never know how the other person you flirting with will receive it let alone how your mate will feel about it.

In the end I agree with that if everything is peachy-keen at time then why play with fire? We females all know that if we caught our mate flirting with another woman thing would get real ugly real fast....So I pose this question to you is there a such thing a friendly flirting and if so what is it?

Innocent or not; you be the judge

I'm a big fan of self esteem and beauty but not at the cost of a child's innocence. I was watching Toddlers and Tiara's last night on TLC; and the whole show was wrong. There was a section called natural beauty-yet these are 5-7 yr old little girls with fake eye lashes, hair extensions, and grown woman's make-up on. (the pic to the right is an example of what some of the girls were looking like.... a porcelain doll)I don't see whats so natural about it, when I hear natural I'm thinking no make-up maybe its just me. Whats even more alarming is the mothers who agree to this for their children. I get its your child and you can raise them how you see fit; but is this the best that you can do? Look at the message that it sends to the children who didn't win, " am I not as pretty as the rest?"

With that being said it seems that it does the opposite of giving self esteem. You cant find another way to uplift your child something that doesn't make the look like mini adults? Whats the difference between girls who are 11-14 yrs old wearing that much make-up and the 5-7 yr old wearing that much? Society as a whole is quick to judge a child wearing that much make-up by calling them fast, or saying that they look like tramps or sluts; yet in still no one has any issue with a child who is 5-7 yrs old? hummmmmm whats wrong with that picture? If you ask me the parents who knowingly allow that much make up to go on their child is far worse than the ones who are experimenting with it....and people wonder why little girls are growing up thinking that its ok to look like grown women at the age of 12, or why older men seems to go after younger girls. By far I am NOT making excuses for the men but it does play a factor. All during the show I kept hearing parents telling the girls to flirt with their eyes or strut their stuff a little more,etc. I'm 27 and I just learned what it means to flirt with your eyes....these children had fake teeth to cover up the fact that they might have lost a tooth, where is the innocence in that or allowing a 5 yr old to look like shes 21?